Dennis said yes and Snezhana said no but that Dennis can go. She didn't have much emotion, unlike Monday, and like yesterday just seemed relieved she had made a decision. I'm sure Melissa and I will both fall apart later but we have too much to do right now.
So we are now getting all the paperwork done, starting the separation, and heading back to Kyiv on the train tonight with the documents. We hope that the SDA will be able to fit us in tomorrow to get a referral given they are potentially closed next week.
If we get the referral then we head to Severodonetsk on Friday/Saturday (?) and meet the kids there. We hope then to come back to see Dennis one more day next week and drop off some presents if we can but that will depend how it goes with the other kids. If we don't get the referral then we will be headed back to the US.
I am so sorry. My heart is breaking for everyone. I am thankful that Snezhanna will allow Denis to come. I pray that with Snezhanna saying no you will still be able to get referrals for Y&V. I wish I knew what was going on in her heart.
ReplyDeleteHer saying no should not impact the SDA referral we need to get to Sverdonesk. There is a team of people who decide on the separation of children, so the Inspector for Lutugino will submit the request for that. Apparently they meet about once a week to decide all the cases, but we have no way to know when the next time they meet will be. However, the SDA referral for V & Y is a completely separate matter because the SDA would not give us the referral for all 4 the first time. So, the separation for S & D can be in process while we go to see V & Y and wait for their answers. If one of them says no, then we petition the same committee to vote on their separation as well. I don't know how getting a court date fits into all this, to right now we are completely playing it by ear as far as when we're going to be coming home.
ReplyDeleteSaying bye to Dennis was really hard today. I think he thought he was going to America now, he doesn't understand the process. We honestly don't know when we are making it back to see him and we have to go NOW to get a chance to see the kids at Severodonetsk.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that this didn't end up the way you were hoping:(
ReplyDeleteOn our first trip, we received a referral for two unrelated girls, (one we hosted and one we met during the hosting) but the one we hosted said 'no'. I was heartbroken and am still not over that rejection even three years later. Then, to top it off we would see her almost every day that we went to see our daughter at the orphanage.
I know you don't want to hear this now, but as someone who has been there, if she does not want to come, this is the best way. You wouldn't want her to come with you grudgingly and make your life miserable.
On the other hand, should she ever change her mind, you have an advantage since you are adopting her siblings.
Blessings,
June