So if you have been reading our blogs, you know that 1.5wks ago the SDA "made up" a new rule where we could not get referrals to see all 4 kids at once. We had to take care of paperwork with Snezhana and Denis before they'd let us see Yuroslav and Violetta. This was supposedly because they were afraid we really wanted Violetta and not Snezhana -- how painfully not true that has been. So we took what should have been 10 calm days bouncing back/forth between orphanages with the kids and had to rush our time with S&D into 4days so we could get back.
We arrive tonight for a late appointment to find they have a problem with our dossier. Yes, the same one they used to make up the new rules we had followed before we could get the referral for the younger Violetta. Fortunately we had already gotten the amendment as the USCIS required it so they'll hopefully accept that tomorrow. The fact they wanted the dossier was also odd since they already accepted it and used it to process the first referral. Basically we've gotten caught up in someone's made up rules that now we are stuck dealing with while they try to figure out how to untangle it.
So Melissa and I are having to make a hard choice... we are now past the point of even hoping for a court date that includes all the kids... and who knows what thing will come up with the SDA tomorrow.
Do we wait for the referral and try to get all the siblings who want to come? Further risking the law passing, the SDA re-org, and who knows what else.
Do we just go to court to get Denis home? We will likely get court this year and bring home our new son mid-Jan. Then having to restart the entire process/paperwork over to get the other kid(s).
This is a really hard decision. So we've booked the train for tomorrow at 6:40p and we'll be on it with the dossier (which is needed to schedule court too). Either we will have a referral with us or we won't.
In parallel, our facilitator is going to try to schedule court for just Denis...
* if we can't get a referral then we go to court
* if we can't get a court date for this year then we wait for a referral
* if we can get a referral then we see the other kids.
S&D have to be officially separated before we can get the court date though which should happen this week. Apparently we can cancel the court date and ask for more time up until that day.
Anyways, please pray for us... both that somehow this madness would be recognized by someone who can help smooth the rest of this out and that we'd make the right/wise decisions.
we're watching "its a mad mad mad mad world" right now. it sounds like you've got your own version, live, right now. Thank goodness the Lord has all this under control - hang on to that!!
ReplyDeletecontinuing to pray for you that the Lord will make it crystal clear which direction you should go! try not to worry!
Continually praying for you all. God is in control and has the perfect plan for all of you. Will be praying for the above specifics.
ReplyDeletePraying for you!
ReplyDeleteWe pray the Lord will lead and grant you wisdom and peace. The battle is real, stand firm.
ReplyDeleteThanks everyone. This would be so much easier if we just knew what God wants us to do. So the train tomorrow is our "fleece". I'm sure there is a third option up there, we just don't know what it is.
ReplyDeleteIt's ALWAYS something in Ukraine!:0 You are already doing what God wants you to do. You are there adopting orphans, but sometimes those tiny details we want all lined out perfectly, just have to wait for God to put everything in motion;) Just go with what you can do and God WILL work out the rest:) I can't tell you how many times we would be up against a brick wall for God to knock it right down!
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
June
Oh, I just remembered something to add. Sometimes God wants us to know WHO is in control, and it's not us;)
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@June: I've semi-jokingly commented on that exact topic... maybe God just wants to put so many things out there we can do nothing about and even the people we know can't do anything about just so we know WHO.
ReplyDeleteSpeaking of that... they moved up the vote to the agenda for Weds. Still haven't posted new text based on the legal rejection.
Hi there Macy family! I happened on your blog while trying to find info on the vote. Yes, we're caught in the madness of this adoption process too. :) We're trying to adopt a little girl with a heart defect from the same region I see you were in on 12/12, but she won't be cleared for international placement until next "Aprilish." (Again...vagueness is par for the course.) I hadn't even heard about an SDA re-org?? Love for you to stop by my blog and say Hi sometime. :)
ReplyDeleteHang in there, you two! I am checking up on you through your blog several times a day so I can see what new updates I need to be praying about. I can't seem to get you and your situation out of my mind. Please know that I am thinking about you and praying for you. ALL of you!
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Continuing to pray for you that all will become very clear and you will have comfort and peace in your decisions! Thinking of you and Snez, too.
ReplyDelete@Melanie: You must still be adjusting timezones. We were glad to hear you made it back.
ReplyDeleteWe got an app't at 4p today. For some reason we are supposed to come in and sign something at 1p for the app't... we have no idea what that is about but need to head out soon.